Everyone knows that it’s good to talk, however knowing when and how to talk may well make the difference between failure and success.
Rule 1: Timing
Don’t start major discussions when one of you is about to go out – make sure there is adequate time for you both to talk, listen and discuss a way forward.
Always ensure that you can both give 100% to each other when one of you wishes to discuss something important. Avoid starting ‘big’ discussions when there are distractions such as young kids vying for attention or cooking preparations that need to be done.
If things in your house are always hectic; try to agree on a good time to sit down and chat.
Rule 2: Discussion is 2-Way
Don’t forget that you both need time to talk. Each of you needs to listen carefully to what the other is saying. Couples that develop strong listening skills have a greater chance of marital success.
The golden rules…..
· No interruptions
· Keep an open mind and consider carefully their points
· Clarify your understanding of what your partner has said if you have any doubts at all
Rule 3: Get in Early
Don’t let problems stew. Ensure that you discuss issues at the onset of any problems. You may be able to prevent things declining if you address your problems early enough.
Don’t let problems stew. Ensure that you discuss issues at the onset of any problems. You may be able to prevent things declining if you address your problems early enough.
It is much harder to resolve mountains than molehills. So get in at the earliest sign of a problem and try to steer yourselves back on track.
Need Further Help?
Failing marriages are a major cause of stress and anxiety. Most couples are acutely aware that things are going wrong but are unsure how to rekindle their romance.
If you feel you would benefit from tips and strategies to get your marriage back on track don’t delay in getting help.
